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Jess Greenwood's avatar

You absolutely create space for authenticity, Cathy. I might take it even further and suggest you nudge the authenticity in to the light. At least, that's been my experience of you. And I just adore your reframe of feedback. With SoulSpeak, we give feedback by answering three things - What did I love about this? What did I want to know more about? And what did I have questions about? The first time I encountered this, it was a profound shift for me, and I can't imagine giving or receiving feedback any other way now. Feedback in its truest form is meant to be generative and generous, not punitive and punishing. It is my goal that moving forward, any feedback I give feels like a hug, not a hit.

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SuddenlyJamie's avatar

What a wonderful story and reflection, Cathy. And I second what Jess said about you not only holding space for authenticity, but also giving it a nudge when needed - such a powerful gift.

I don’t get much feedback, but the bits I remember from over the years are often random, seemingly off-the-cuff observations that have almost nothing to do with anything. For example, I remember my parents telling me I had eagle eyes when I was a kid. I also remember an online acquaintance telling me I am really great at curating interesting information.

People should give each other kudos more often and for no reason. It helps us learn about ourselves when we can see ourselves through someone else’s eyes.

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